A “Mighty Fine” Movie
The story of “Mighty Fine” is fictional, but it draws to a great extent on writer/director Debbie Goodstein’s vivid memories of her childhood. “My father had anger issues, ups and downs, and living in his world could be a bit of a rollercoaster ride,” says Goodstein. “He loved his family but had self-destructive impulses and a rage that made life with him unpredictable and sometimes very scary.” Many of Goodstein’s friends also had fathers similar to her own, and she contrived the character of Joe Fine as a composite. Goodstein sees Joe as a creature of his time, someone who couldn’t exist today: “Joe Fine is the king of his castle, like so many men of the seventies. But even then, things were changing rapidly, and men like Joe, with all their bravado and patriarchal dominance, were poised for extinction. Today, with so many women in the workplace, that castle has become more of a stronghold of equanimity.”
There is a part of me that I don’t speak of often. It is a part of me that I deal with every day. It is a part of me that works very hard as a mom to reverse.
I grew up in a home with an emotionally explosive parent. As a child, this is a very difficult position to be put in. As an adult, I’ve had friends who were married to emotionally explosive and abusive spouses. I’ve seen them take steps to protect themselves, and their families. However, the wounds never really heal. There is always a part that is looking or waiting for an outburst at the slightest provocation.
I was given the opportunity to preview the film, “Mighty Fine” along with about 99 other Mom Central mom bloggers. After the screening we had the opportunity video chat with the actors. I so enjoyed getting to know young, fresh, Rainey Qualley better (and she sang the song playing over the closing credits!) The whole time that I spent watching the movie, I was enthralled, because, although it took place in a different time and place than I was raised, it still rung true. The movie was able to dredge up emotions that I had long buried.
The truth is, moms, while we are a product of our upbringing, we are not destined to wallow in it. We can rise, up, overcome and be better for it. I can guarantee that my children will find fault with at least one of the things we have chosen for them in their childhood . . . no parent is perfect. We can learn and grow from our past.
I work toward having a more harmonious home for our family than I had growing up. I often fail. When faced with a stressful situation, my fight or flight reflex tells me to fight…when I should probably just put myself into a time out!
You have a chance to watch this powerful movie starring Chazz Palminteri, Andi McDowell, Jodelle Ferland, and RaineyQualley (Andi McDowell’s very talented daughter!), in select theaters May 25, 2012.
*I participated in a campaign on behalf of Mom Central Consulting for Mighty Fine and the distributor. I received access to an online showing of the film and a promotional item to thank me for participating