family I’m a mom to six awesome kids. I’d like to say that they are awesome due to my superior mothering, but that would be a lie. In many ways they are awesome in spite of my many flaws! I’m usually pretty careful about bragging about my kids, in public and on this blog, partially out of a sense of humility and partially because I don’t really want to sound like a perpetual annoying Christmas letter.

At the risk of sounding like a braggart, I think that we need to spend more time building up our kids, by praising their childhood achievements.

The temptation is to bemoan our kids, and point out the very burden of raising them. Trust me, I know. A quick glance through some recent posts would lend you the idea that my girls only cry and fight and that my sons sit around and make messes without cleaning them up. While this may be true at least part of the time, most of the day I am super proud of my kids!

Lately I’ve been shouting from the rooftops that my son who has always struggled in school is now earning As and Bs! The really awesome thing is that the more I praise this achievement, the harder he works and more responsible he acts.

I have a sporty son too. He is way sportier than Dakotapastor or I. Now, he may or may not be the most athletically gifted kid, but what he does have is a great attitude towards sports. He sees the sports he participates in as entertainment. He does not need to win to have fun…though winning is fun! His good sportsmanship is something to be proud of, and I let him know this all the time.

And those toddler girls? They are starting to talk! And the more that they talk, the less they cry…and that, my friends makes me a happy and proud mama!

Here are some tips to share your pride in your kids.

Don’t be afraid to brag at home.

The dinner table is not a Christmas letter. There is no shame in playing up everyone’s strong points around the table. When you have dinner as a family (and I hope that you do), spend a little time sharing achievements. Teach your kids to “toot their own horn” when needed. Let them know that the things that they achieve are worth being proud of.

Let your kids “catch” you bragging on them.

Next time you are talking with your friends and the kids are within earshot, take a moment to talk up some of your children’s achievements. Trust me, they do hear, and it will make them feel great!

Don’t stop documenting milestones with the baby book.

We tend to obsessively keep track of the baby and toddler years. Find a way to document elementary and high school milestones as well, either with a scrapbook, journal, photo book or even a blog.

Teach your kids to watch out for other people’s achievements.

Have your family cultivate a culture of encouragement in which you point out and praise other people’s achievements! The more they praise others the prouder they will be of themselves.

Older kids are harder to praise.

Sometimes it takes a “captive audience” to praise teens for their achievements. They tend to be more self conscious and are not fond of talking about themselves. Take advantage of times driving them around town to let them know just how very proud of them you are. Or, every once in a while, write them a note and leave it on their bedside table or desk. They may not look like or act like your approval matters, but it really does!

Chime in! What are some of your kids’ latest and greatest achievements? Do you have a special way to mark them? I’d love to hear from you!

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  1. Ma.Dharess says:

    You are indeed very proud mom! Well my mom has 8 children and we are all grown-up now…We have successful families and she is very proud of us…I am going to be a mom soon so good luck for me…

  2. Gracie says:

    I have really bad childhood. My both mom and dad died when I was 3 and I m living with my uncle and aunt who are jerks. Every child gets toys, good food, etc but I never got anything. They have a daughter but they make me to do all work like cook food. I m still dependent on them because I m 19 now and studying. But I m gratefull to them because they kept me.

    • Dakotapam says:

      Gracie,

      I am sorry to hear of your hardships. The good news is that we can overcome our pasts! It sounds like you are on the right track! Keep studying and you will be independent before you know it!
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  3. Lisa says:

    Tks for sharing. Kids do need a lot of encouragement. The balance must be struck between over praising and giving them a sense of entitlement or even fear of failing. And the tips for teens is something I’m filing away!

  4. Brien27 says:

    My mom is proud with my sister and I, cause she know we study well for our future..We give her a love and care. So thankful to have a complete family to share a foods for one table.

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