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  1. AMEN. My kids don’t have chores per se, and neither do they have an allowance. They are expected to help when asked. Someday when they’re on their own in a dorm room or apartment, they’ll appreciate us. 🙂

  2. North

    My son is expected to help. In return, for years he got books at B&N. Now it is gas money and/or date money.

    He has his moments, but he does a pretty good job for a teen.

    • The teen was actually pretty dependable. However, he found someone on the outside willing to pay him more than I can. Now the kid makes more money than me! Time for him to buy me coffee!

  3. My kids have also failed me in the chores dept. Smart to cut the allowance. I know many parents still doling out cash for half done chores. Drink up my friend!

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  5. The best things we’ve done to get our kids on board with the upkeep is to come up with easy storage and simple routines. Well it didn’t feel simple at the time. Things like hanging hooks for coats, creating space for art supplies, cubbies for backpacks and we even had a big built-in shelving unit done last year with lots of bookshelves and baskets. That combined with teaching them from a very young age the necessity of giving away things we’ve outgrown—having less to clean makes it easy. Also, we store things like the broom, dustpan and dusters where they can reach, and we have a family rule that no one leaves until the kitchen is clean and the dishes are done. They get a small weekly allowance, but the real motivator is everyone working together. All that said, it is a process and it’s not always smooth 😉

  6. Bethany

    I’m so glad you wrote this post. Now I know I’m not alone in wanting a peaceful household more than I want my kids to “contribute.” I’ve always felt like it was something I was doing wrong that they wouldn’t keep up with their chores. What a weight off when I finally realized it’s ok to prioritize our relationships.

    I do have to say that I haven’t given up yet, though! I guess I’m a glutten for punishment…I found a new “responsiblity system” that I’m going to give a try! I’ll keep you posted 🙂

  7. Kandi

    I am married to a wonderful man, the love of my life, for which I am so grateful. He loves me and our child more than anything.

    His mother didn’t have any of her boys do household chores, which is the BIGGEST mistake. He doesn’t see the dust or mildew and seems to think there is a fairy that takes care of everything house related. I actually had to point out to him the other day that I am well aware when he does his chores, because when he doesn’t I have to do the work.

    • Very true. My kids do know how to do them…and now they have to do them for free when they get on my nerves. But for now, I’m a stay at home mom and can get it all done in half the time and twice as good. With no fighting. They do have to keep their rooms clean (but I don’t have to hear them do that!) I do fear that their not doing so many chores now may effect their housework later. But I think sometimes being neat is more inborn than anything else. I had to do tons of chores growing up (like heavy duty scrubbing of everything), but I am a slob by nature. I have to force myself to clean and keep things neat, for the good of my family and for my very neat husband (who grew up doing very few chores). We’ll see how it all ends up. For now, the two year olds LOVE to help clean!

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