Top 10 benefits of Having Twins

Before I was blessed with my twin girls I was a pretty accomplished mom of singletons. My first three sons are very naturally spaced about three years apart, and son three and four are 23 months apart (which I used to think felt like twins). We then took a long break from childbearing and were gifted with twin girls just about a year ago.

At almost 21 weeks pregnant when I went in for my routine ultrasound, I was shocked to see two little hearts beating! That is when my life changed. That was the day I truly became a mother of twins!

At first, it was hard to see past the negatives of having twins. My pregnancy was higher risk. My delivery was a three ring circus. My babies were over a pound lighter each than my singletons were at birth. Breastfeeding was harder to establish in the early days. I’m only just starting to get regular sleep at night. My laundry is never caught up. Our whole family cannot fit into one vehicle. I’ve flaked on more than one big event for my bigger kids. We ate way too much fast food for a while.

And now, when I look at my one-year-olds and see the joy in their eyes, all I see is the good, the benefits of having twins!

So, here you go, my Top Ten Reasons Twins are Great!

  1. One pregnancy, two kids.

    Sure, I got as big as a tank. Sure the reflux just about killed me. Sure, my gallbladder threatened to quit. Sure, I got really, really cranky. However, I came out of it with two gorgeous little babies in just 38 weeks instead of 82 weeks. That, my friends, is a bargain!

  2. A Sense of Efficiency.

    In my younger days, I loved the book Cheaper by the Dozen. Not the movie with Steve Martin, though that is funny too! In the book, the father and mother are efficiency experts, and they use the children (all 12 of them) as experiments. Now, I’ve not experimented (much) with my kids, but I do know that the day I discovered how to actually tandem nurse the girls was the same day I felt like superwoman! Once I had both girls at home, my life fell into a pattern: feed one, then the other, change one, then the other, bathe one and then the other. I began to respond to the random stranger that commented that I “had my hands full”, that “really, it is easier than just one kid”. If nothing else, it shut them up!

  3. Always a full wash load of diapers.

    This probably belongs under the efficiency item but it works on its own as well. I cloth diaper the babies. I cloth diapered most of the other kids as well but I was always plagued by the fact that I either washed very small loads of diapers (which never seemed efficient), or I went too long between diaper loads (eeew factor). Well, let me tell you, cloth diapering twins is not only very efficient, it is affordable and no harder than using disposables. I daresay it is easier, as I never run out! It takes me just a little over a day to get a full diaper pail full of cloth diapers ready to run through the laundry. And when I change the girls I never have a dollar sign running over her head. And that is good, we have six kids, we have plenty of other places to spend that diaper money!

  4. Two babies entertain each other.

    When I had my sons one at a time, I always had to spend a lot of time building endless block towers or doing the stoop-backed walk around in circles. With twins, I make some towers and have done some walking practice, but mostly, these two just want to hang out with each other. Separate them and they will call across the room to each other. They are true besties!

  5. Two babies don’t always take up twice the space.

    Our girls still co-bed in the same crib. At around six months they went through a patch where I thought we would have to separate them as they began waking each other, and then we went on vacation and they shared a pack n play. By the time we came back from our trip we knew that there was no way we could separate this crew! I think when they outgrow the crib we’ll just move them to a full-size bed. We also only had one swing, and one of many of the baby toys. We do have two car seats, a few double strollers, and we HAD to have two bouncy seats.

  6. Twins take the attention off of you!

    Yes, twins cause a lot of attention when you are out in public. In the early days, it is wise to budget at least an extra half hour to all of your outings, as two babies in one grocery cart can cause quite a stir. The good news though, is that no one is looking at YOU! All those crazy gawkers see are two sweet little munchkins and they will be busy making smoochy faces at them and telling you how busy you must be…or that they wish they were you…or that their second uncle was a left-handed twin. It is no matter that you have oatmeal in your hair and yesterday’s makeup, and bleach stained yoga pants and the slippers that you accidentally left the house in. All the people see is TWO BABIES AT ONE TIME!

  7. Front of line privileges at the grocery store.

    Let them both cry, you will be out of there in no time.

  8. The best nighttime snuggles ever.

    Until you have had two babies who share a birthday snuggle on your lap after a bath, you have not really lived. Trust me.

  9. More laughter than you can handle! 

    Not a day goes by when my sweet baby twin girls don’t give me something to laugh at!

  10. Two times the kisses!

    Need I say more?

Chime in! Do you have twins (or more) in your life? What have been the hidden benefits? You know I’d love to hear from you!

 

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About the author : Dakotapam

I’m a Lutheran pastor’s wife and mom to six kids, including toddler twin girls. My life is sometimes normal, and sometimes crazy; but through it all, I know that I am blessed! Some people say that I have my hands full, I prefer to call it living life with both hands full, and I love it!

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  1. Krystle - February 8, 2011 Reply

    I can’t tell you how much I needed to read this. My twins will be here in 2 days and I feel like almost every other twin Mom out there feels the need to “scare” me or something. All I hear is the negativity and how hard it will be. I gather that…I get it. I have a toddler, I know this will be tough…but goodness, can ya not encourage me a bit and tell me of the wonderful things?!?
    SO thank you thank you thank you 🙂

    • Kristin - February 8, 2011 Reply

      Krystle

      I am sorry that all the other twin mamas out there feel the need to scare you… Being a twin Mom the one of the best things that has ever happened to me. There are in fact days that I am sad for my singleton and surviving twin children that they do not have that ‘special’ sibling…. I’m here if you ever need an ear kristin.wentzkrumwiede@gmail.com

      • Dakotapam - February 8, 2011 Reply

        Kristin, I loved how upbeat you were and are during all of my twin adventures!

      • Krystle - February 8, 2011 Reply

        Thank you thank you 🙂 🙂

  2. Sudie - February 8, 2011 Reply

    What a great read! We are blessed with so many twins in our family. My grandparents and dad are all twins, not to mention a couple of twin cousins and aunts/uncles. Crazy wonderful is how Grandaddy described it.

    and, Cheaper By the Dozen is one of my Favorite books too! Thanks for sharing a peek inside your life.

    Blessings, Sudie

  3. Kristin - February 8, 2011 Reply

    Twins are hands down the best thing that happened to me. My girls have made me a better mom 100times over. Seeing them growing and changing together makes me sad for their singleton sister (Delainey) and for Brody who lost his twin at 15 weeks.

    Although I think my 4 kids take up more space than your 6… lol

  4. Essie - February 8, 2011 Reply

    I have twins in my life…..I’ll just leave it at that. 😉

    • Dakotapam - February 8, 2011 Reply

      And you like one. . .

      And Oh poop…Karrie is going to give me the business because I left her out!

  5. robYn - February 8, 2011 Reply

    Having twins at first was scary to me. But I can’t imagine my life with out my twins. One of the best things I like is waking up and hearing them “talk” to each other. They have their own language. I just lay in my bed and listen to them as they bond and wait for me or their dad to come get them. They are such good babies!

  6. Jen - February 10, 2012 Reply

    You did a really good job with this post. I liked it and I can totally relate.

    • Dakotapam - February 10, 2012 Reply

      Thanks Jen! Having twins has been both my greatest challenge and greatest blessing.

  7. Erin - March 27, 2012 Reply

    LOVE! LOVE! LOVE being a twin mommy! I agree with your top 10 list!

    • Dakotapam - March 27, 2012 Reply

      It is the greatest gift that I never asked for!

  8. Jenni K - April 3, 2012 Reply

    I so needed to be reminded of this today! I have a 3 year old, a 19 month old and twin 4 month olds and life seems so overwhelming today and I was actually just sitting here crying over the fact that I have twins and wish I didn’t! I just needed the reminder that they are a special and precious gift and there are so many things that are sweet and special about them. I desperately love tandem nursing my girls because they grab hands and hold onto each other and play with each other’s faces! Always makes my heart melt!

    • Dakotapam - April 3, 2012 Reply

      Awww Jenni! I’m glad I could help. I’d love to say that it stops being overwhelming, but it just gets different. Currently I have a pair of 2 year olds crying for no apparent reason in the kitchen. Hugs to you! And take lots of pictures, you will treasure them when those babies are big!

  9. Theresa - August 8, 2012 Reply

    Oh my goodness, this is SO true!!! The double cuddles truly are amazing. And the way they entertain each other? What a blessing! My girls are currently in the crawling-around-exploring-together stage. it’s pretty much the cutest thing ever. 🙂

    • Dakotapam - August 8, 2012 Reply

      Isn’t it fun! (Let me tell you it is way better than the two year-old double Target melt down that I encountered the other day! It is a great thing that most of the time they are charming and sweet!

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