Nobody Told Me

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Nobody told me


Nobody told me:

  • that I would be in more pain after the baby was born than I would be during labor.
  • that feeding a newborn would be a full-time job.
  • that I would have conversations about poop and never blush.
  • that I could survive on two hours of interrupted sleep.
  • that I would be more excited about buying my children new clothes than I am about my own.
  • that I would hide story books because they made me cry (I’m looking at you, Love You Forever)
  • that I would clean a child’s bedroom with a broom and black garbage bag.
  • that I would worry so much about my kids struggling with the same issues I struggled with as a kid.
  • that I would be so excited over my child reading his first word, or writing his first numbers.
  • that I would stop caring if their clothing matched.
  • how much laundry multiplies.
  • just how much more milk there is in a gallon if it is spilled on the floor.
  • that I might not cry when they go off to kindergarten, but I probably will when they leave for college.
  • that I could enjoy being a working mom just as much or more than I enjoyed being a stay at home mom.
  • that I would love these kids so much.

I’m glad that nobody told me. I wouldn’t have believed you anyway if you had. And really, half the joy has been in the discovery.


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About the author : Dakotapam

I'm a Lutheran pastor's wife and mom to six kids, including toddler twin girls. My life is sometimes normal, and sometimes crazy; but through it all, I know that I am blessed! Some people say that I have my hands full, I prefer to call it living life with both hands full, and I love it!

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  1. Lisa - August 26, 2014 Reply

    This is so true and so beautiful, Pam. I think we moms often joke about how some of these things would have been handy to know in advance. But like you said, looking back at life since Kidzilla came along, I don’t think I’d really want to know anything ahead of time. Reminds me of lines from an old Garth Brooks song…”I’m glad I didn’t know the way it all would end, the way it all would go…I could’ve missed the pain but I’d have had to miss the dance.”

    • Dakotapam - August 26, 2014 Reply

      IF someone had warned me, I would have labelled them a bossy know-it-all 🙂 So now I just tell moms to enjoy the ride!

      • Lisa - August 26, 2014 Reply

        I think the people who have said similar things to me have been the ones that helped the most!

  2. Essie - August 26, 2014 Reply

    -That the teen years are harder than the Terrible Twos.
    -That my house would be in a perpetual mess forEVER.
    -That my heart could split into three pieces and walk around outside of my body.

    • Dakotapam - August 26, 2014 Reply

      Amen on the splitting heart! Thankfully either my kids are such awful twos that the teen thing seems easy, or they are easy teens. Either way, I’ll take it!

  3. Jennifer Flaa ( - August 26, 2014 Reply

    I’ll have to revisit this post when we have a family someday. I appreciate when people share so frankly about parenthood!

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