Hey moms! I’ve decided to launch a Mom Encouragement Friday feature! One of my goals for this year has been to begin vlogging on a regular basis, and decided this is a great start. Be gentle, and be encouraged!
Get any group of bloggers together and you will hear a common theme ring out. Bloggers want more comments on their posts.
Seems pretty simple right?
No one wants to speak, or write, to an empty room.
As bloggers we not only want people to read what we write, we want people to respond and interact with us about our writing.
But, dear fellow bloggers, you are making it really hard for me to comment on your blogs.
Here are the Top 6 reasons that I’m not commenting a whole lot on your blog:
1. Your comment platform is too hard to use.
Whether it be Intense Debate, Discus, or LiveFyre, all of the “neat features” that compelled you to install it on your blog is what keeps me from commenting. First off, the comment platforms slow down your blog, and secondly, it is often confusing to comment on these platforms (and I am a seasoned blogger, if it is hard for me, it is near impossible to someone new to blogdom). Quick example. I was at another blog today for the first time. Something she wrote resonated with me and I thought I had something to add to the conversation. So I clicked on the “reply” button and typed my comment. Then I was taken to a LiveFyre sign on page and I attempted to sign in as a guest, leaving name, email and website url. I was then directed to another screen asking for my password as I had already registered with this platform. Then I could not come up with my password and had to send for a re-set. The email was slow in coming so I tried signing on with Facebook or Twitter to comment and kept getting the same message that I already had a livefyre account. I finally gave up and decided to not leave my comment.
2. I’m Sick of Captcha Codes
Call me impatient, but those little captcha codes at the end of your comment forms are a turn-off. Sure, you are getting fewer spam comments (maybe), but you are also getting fewer legitimate comments. I turned off my captcha code options long ago and did not see any significant spam comment increase. On some blogs, the captcha verification comes up After I have submitted my comment and have clicked out of the page, so I left you a comment, but you never got it.
3. I can’t find your comment form.
Your template and design is lovely. You have wonderful things to say. If I can’t find a way to comment in less than 30 seconds I give up. Make it easy for me to find a way to comment. Don’t hide your comment link under a cute icon. I might not get it.
4. Your Spam Filter is set way too high.
I understand. Spam annoys me as much as it annoys you. however, if your filter is set that unless I am your BFF my comment can’t get past your filter, then you lose my comment.
5. I hate that you moderate your comments.
I see the comment section as a “real-time” conversation. Joe comments on your post, Susie chimes in and agrees with Joe on all but one point, Barb jumps in and adds her thoughts. It is a conversation. If you have your comments set up to await moderation then you lose that conversational feel. It is disheartening for a reader to go through the trouble to type out a thoughtful comment and then get a notice that it will appear on the site once it is approved. Once again, sure it cuts down on spam comments, but at the cost of cutting down on insightful comments as well.
6. I don’t think that you read my comments.
If I peek in your comment section and see that it is a lot of comments from your reader, and no response from you, I’m not sure I have much to add to a one-sided conversation.
There you have it! I’m no comment snob and I love to leave my thoughts around the internet, but if you were wondering why you’ve not seen much of me on your blog, this is probably why.
If you are fearful of specific negative people leaving comments on your blog, an easier way to block them is to block their specific IP. There is a simple way to do this on Word Press and I’m sure on blogger as well. I spend a bit of time each day weeding out spammy comments, but I’ve begun saving them up to share the best ones with you!
Chime in! What keeps you from commenting on blogs? What makes you want to come back and add more to the conversation?
In my time writing this blog, I’ve gotten to know a lot of my readers. Many of you are my friends, many of you have become my friends, and there are many of you that I would love to meet!
And then, there are my comment spam friends. These are the people that make me so excited to see that a post received a comment, only to realize that this “person” did not even read a thing I wrote. I try to delete these “comments” ASAP as they really do not add to the conversation, and sometimes they link to places I’d rather not advertise on my blog. But, some of them are too funny not to share.
My bloggy friend Jen had a post of a Q & A from her spammers. My spammers don’t tend to ask a lot of questions, but I’d love to feature some of the gems I find each and every day nonetheless!
First up “Clarice”: She was really inspired about our Urban Hike yesterday. So much so, that she wants to plan a family reunion to gain much happiness! (She wants to sell us tips on how to get pregnant…think I’ve got that down…thanks!)
Having this kind of affair, really helps to create a bound of foundation to the family. This coming summer vacation, I will pursue to have a family reunion in order to gain a kind of happiness like yours..
Denise (who sells children’s bedroom furniture…so not a bad match up) really, really likes school cafeteria food, becasue this is what she had to say on my post about School Lunches:
I liked this place! Good food, great prices, perfect for a healthy midday lunch, plus it’s environment-friendly. Set menu is BIG and excellent value for money.
Gelhi (who has learned to cure panic attacks) found great encouragement from my guest posting announcement:
I want to have twins too… So that I can learn a lot of lessons of being a mother to them…
Oh honey, there are a lot of better ways to learn to be a better mother than having twins, trust me on this one!
Keith (with tips on effective conference calls) wanted to encourage me to share more content here, since I was guest posting.
You have a cool ideas from here, i know that you can create more than what you have share with us. Thanks a lot. It’s my pleasure to view your great creation…
Wow, “great creation”…Keith, you are making my head swell!
My friends. I love it when you come to visit. And I love to read what you have to say, but rest assured, my spam comments will be deleted. But I’ll share more with you when I get another interesting batch. It does not take long:)
Chime in! What is some of the funniest spam you have received? I’d love to read it!
Who knew that a lunch could create such controversy? If you are a mom, and you are active on the internet at all (and I’m assuming both, since you are reading this), I’m pretty sure you have seen this story. Apparently a federal agent was in a public school in South Carolina and informed a four year old that her lunch was not “healthy” because it did not include milk. This has set off a firestorm regarding the merits of the home packed lunch or the school lunch that the little girl was given to replace her “unhealthy” lunch.
We could argue the relative merits of both lunches all day long. My kids eat home lunches, my kids eat school lunches. But, my friends, this is not about food.
This is about power.
I think too many of us forget that our public schools are, first and foremost, a government agency.
While the primary purpose of our schools may be to teach the three Rs, the other purpose of public schools is to create model citizens. And, sometimes, the government gets too big, and forgets how much power it has.
Friends, remember this, when you enroll your child in a public school, you are, in fact, giving up a little bit of your parental authority. During the hours that your child spends in that school building, that child is not under your authority, but the school’s. This goes for private school students as well…and do not be fooled, the government is almost just as involved in the private schools as in the public schools.
Every benefit has costs.
As citizens we need to be aware, that every “benefit” has “costs”, some are obvious, some are less so. For example, in order to receive WIC benefits, you must subject your children to blood tests to check iron levels and regular weight and growth screenings. You also are required to purchase the items from a very specific list. Now, the benefit is that you get scads of free-to-you milk, and formula and cereal and fruit, etc. The “cost” is that your child is placed under extra scrutiny, and you may be “judged” if health or growth or development does not fall under certain norms. Some people are fine with this, others are not, so they decline the benefit; and still others will complain rather loudly about how unfair the system is for “judging” their diet or their child’s growth.
So it is with the school systems, flawed as they are. When we pack off our little blessings every day (and I do, and I am generally pleased with the experience) I realize that I have little or no say over the curriculum. For example, my kids have learned about the theory of evolution. This goes against our belief system. However, we have chosen to send our children to the schools funded by our tax dollars (public school is hardly free). We teach our children our beliefs, teach them to be respectful at school and treat it as it is…a theory. I could get all up in arms, however, really, would it do any good? No. Half of the teachers don’t believe it either, but they do what they are told. Our classroom teachers do not determine the curriculum, just as the “school lunch ladies” do not select the menu at school…the government has a pretty heavy hand in those lunches.
In short, I know that the benefits of my kids going to the public schools are going to have a “cost”, and that cost is them learning something that I personally would not teach them. The alternative, of course, would be to home school them, and trust me, as much as I am tempted at times, the education that they ARE receiving outweighs the “costs” incurred.
This is all a very long story, to point out a very simple truth. Sometimes the truth gets buried in the story. Just like today Planned Parenthood tried to lead their followers into thinking that the HHS mandate and the Church’s opposition to is misogynistic and against contraception and against women’s voices in general. But it is not…it is about freedom of religion. Which, in my mind, is way more important than freedom of school lunch.
Chime in! How do you deal with the costs vs. benefits issues? Do you feel like we are treated fairly as consumers of information?
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