1. Sue

    I remember the shock of my boys leaving home, one for college and one for a job in another city. The college one came home quite regularly at first, then started attending summer school and never really came home except for brief visits until a divorce happened last fall. So my 37 in 2 days son is back home. It’s been nice, but I think we’re both looking forward to our privacy again! The original transition wasn’t too hard. Though I gradually realized I needed to stop giving advice unless asked for. My younger son went through some really hard times and there was nothing I could do. In fact I didn’t really know most of it till after the fact. He is now married for the 3rd time (first time was at 19 – I bit my tongue a lot then) with a baby on the way. He commented not long after he got engaged that it took him a while to find his path. This wife has been so good for him, and he for her. Now I get to be Grandma, a whole new thing! One little boy is 5 already and heading to kindergarten in the fall, just after grandson #2 will be born.

    Another thing about the empty nest – I was divorced (not my choice) when my boys were 4 and 7. So I’d been on my own raising them for years by the time they left home. So I was truly alone when they left. Those of you who are married are blessed to still have a partner, and to be able to enjoy each other in a way that’s hard when the kids are home. Remember that and be happy for your circumstances. I’ve been on my own now for 29 years, last kid left home (not counting the current temporary one) for 15 years.

  2. I was pondering this last night. One of my boys got sick yesterday and I was amazed that I really didn’t have to do anything. He ran to to the trash can and oldest ran to assist him if he needed help. Then he went to the bathroom and cleaned himself up. He didn’t get sick again, but he took his temperature and reported to me a couple of times. He fell asleep downstairs so hubby carried him up to his bed. He went to bed early and woke up feeling better. The only thing I had to do was wash one more set of clothes-which he put in the laundry room.
    Oh how different this was than even just a few years ago, when one of them was sick! My role as mother is changing with boys ages 12, almost 8, and almost 10.

    • Yes, and you will notice that it will change even quicker now. But, no matter what, they still always need their mom, if even for encouragement and prayer!

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