Motherhood is a club of sorts, and many of your fellow mothers will feel the need to subject you to an initiation rite that we females are particularly good at.
Mothers around the world are going to give you advice.
They will give it to you whether you want it or not.
It’s not fair.
Motherhood is hard enough without having to endure such conflicting “truths”:
“Don’t hold him too much. You will spoil him”
“Wear him attached to your body or you will never bond with him.”
“Sleep with him”
“sleep train him”
“let him cry.”
“Never let him cry.”
Quite frankly, all of this unsolicited advice is just noise to a new mom. The truth is, we moms do what is best at the time according to our situations.
Kate has a mom, a sister, a step-mother-in-law, and the Queen to give her advice. Our job, Dear Internettes, is to admire the sweet little boy and keep our mouths shut and our typing fingers still.
I will, however, break my own rule, and offer Kate the same advice that I give all new mothers: make sure you have the newborn screening done. The newborn screen tests for many genetic diseases, such as cystic fibrosis, from one small blood sample. The sooner you know about any health issues, the better health your child will enjoy. Do it, and you have my permission to share this piece of unsolicited advice with all new moms and moms-to-be.
Chime in! Are you an advice giver? How do you handle unsolicited advice?