Is Weight Loss More About Calories or Mindset?

An Update on my Health and Fitness Goals

I feel like I need to put this here, as I have kept you all up to speed on the whys and why nots of my going on a diet.

It is a tricky thing, coming to terms with a middle-aged body. My “babies” are now six-years-old, so I cannot blame my excess baggage on the ravages of pregnancy times 5.

I’ve been going to the gym more or less regularly for a year. That gave me some initial toning up, and my clothes began to fit better. However, it was not the miracle cure for my poor diet.

Sure, I eat just fine in theory. I prepare healthy meals for my family–until life gets crazy (like our recent home renovation that had us eating pizza and cheeseburgers for a week). I CAN pack healthy lunches for at work, but then I get tempted by Wendy’s chicken nuggets, and since it is right next door. . . Or, how about my total addiction to 500 calorie lattes?

Something had to go. And quite frankly, it was my bad habits.

I needed a plan. But it had to be a plan that would work with me preparing meals for my hungry and growing six children. And, just as I won’t play short order cook with them, I too need to show a good example by eating the very food that I am feeding them.



I’m not a shake or supplement person. I don’t like the taste, I like to chew my food, and, quite frankly, it all seems so processed to me. (I know, I know, I’m sure you will tell me otherwise, but really, I don’t want to put anything in my water or my coffee–but if that works for you–go for it!)

I just cannot take entire food groups out of my diet. Like I said before, I am not gluten intolerant, and if a really good hunk of bread comes along (hello Panera, I’m looking at you), I want to eat it and not feel like I blew my whole plan. I love potatoes. They are total comfort food and they really are filled with some great vitamins and minerals. Really, other than candy and soda (and yes, the lattes) there is really nothing in my current diet that I want to never eat again.

My Wake-Up Call

While on vacation last week I had the rare treat of sipping coffee to the “Today Show”, just like the old days. (sidebar: I totally grew up on the Today Show, I remember getting ready for school growing up and my mom had it on. When I grew up and got married, I always started my day with it. Now with working outside the home, I barely have time in the morning to put mascara on, let alone watch the Today Show–so it is a vacation treat.) This little story with Bob Harper came on and I had an epiphany.

I had been trying to out-exercise my poor diet! So, I gave myself a week to figure something out.

I CAN hobble together a good diet plan, but I decided to go back to what helped me 14 years earlier. I hit up Weight Watchers.

My New Plan

I’m not a meeting person, so I am doing the online plan. I’m delighted to see that some of the things that bothered me about the “old” Weight Watchers have been improved. There is a heavy emphasis on plant-based foods–fruits and vegetables–so nearly all of those are 0 points. Which means if I had a bad day and blew my entire point allowance at Starbucks, I can still eat a giant salad and eat an apple and not go over my points. There is also a better emphasis on lean proteins, including eggs. So those foods now have lower point values. This also means that I can eat what my family does for dinner without starving the rest of the day–I just have to watch my portions. And, with the new fit points, exercise is not longer a tool to get more points so that I can eat more. They are just a separate goal to track.

The best part? I almost always have enough points left over (thank you fruits and veggies!) so that I can have a glass of wine at night. Oprah might want her bread every day, but this mama likes a nice glass of Chardonnay!

And, so far, it is working. I lost 5 pounds this past week. And really, that was just a half week–I started on Wednesday–and that day began with a latte and some elf cookies, so I had a lot to make up for!

I’m still working out. I’ve added some weight training to my routines. I’m feeling more fit, and most days I even enjoy going to the gym. Other days I have to bribe myself with the promise of a nice soak in the whirlpool post-workout.

My Fitbit is still my constant companion. And I still struggle to get all of my steps in, thanks to my office environment. But, it at least keeps me aware and pro-active.

I don’t tell my kids that I am on a diet. Because, really, I am not. I am simply improving my lifestyle and making better food choices. I don’t want my kids, especially my daughters, to think that there is anything less than wonderful about my body–or theirs. Because my body is a wonderful miracle! It grew and sustained six healthy children. It stays healthy in spite of the abuse that I put it through. I don’t hate my body–I just want to make sure that it can sustain me for the long run. I want to make it better! If I hated my body, I just would not care!

So there it is–the long awaited update of my food and fitness goals. I’m still on a journey, and I’m enjoying it!

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My Take on Weight Loss . . . or Not

food and fitness goals It is a new year, and the minute after the ball dropped in Times Square the ads for weight loss products, companies and services began.

Weight loss is big business and big money.

Call me lazy, call me a fatso, but I never get excited for the next diet fad.

Part of it is a personality thing. I am decidedly NOT a jump on the bandwagon type of girl. I’m also not a go to meeting/support group kind of girl. I had a short stint as a Mary Kay lady 18 years ago and I had my fill of rah-rah pep meetings. They are not for me. And weighing-in in front of anyone other than my nurse? No thanks.

I’m also pretty frugal (some call it cheap). I really don’t feel like paying someone to tell me how, or how not to eat.

I’m a cynic. I see many weight loss plans as business plans and not much more.

I love real food.

Face it, I’m fat. But, I’m not necessarily fat because I’m lazy, or I eat too much (I possibly eat too little). Part of my fat is genetic (family pictures don’t lie), hormonal, and age related (40! Yay!)

While I want to be healthier, I’m not willing to give up the good foods that we enjoy in our home. I have no gluten sensitivity, so I’m not going to give up bread. Eggs taste great and are an inexpensive protein source. Dairy foods? Yum! Fruits and veggies? Yes please, pass the avocado!

So, here I am starting 2014 wanting to be more fit and healthy, but not exactly putting weight loss on the top of my priority list. (If it happens, fabulous!)

Rachel’s post, Six Reasons I am NOT trying to Lose Weight this Year  resonated with me. As I read I was nodding my head, yes, yes, yes! Exactly!

Now, since starting my new job last May there have been some negative consequences on my fitness level. I am behind a desk most of the day instead of chasing busy toddlers. I joined and quit a gym because I hated giving up family time to work out (and I really hate leaving my house once I am nice and warm inside!). I sit at my desk and eat too much candy, and I forget to drink water.

I’m addressing my fitness needs.

I know that counting calories does not work for me. Calorie counting puts food in a negative light for me and makes me food obsessive. I know that I don’t have the time or dedication to work-out outside of the home. I know that I love gadgets.

Fit bit flex So, with the help of my Christmas bonus, I invested in a [easyazon-link asin=”B00BGO0Q9O” locale=”us”]Fitbit Flex[/easyazon-link]. This little Star Trek looking bracelet tracks my steps and activity level throughout the day and sends the data to an app on my iPad. I currently have a goal of 10,000 steps per day and if I work out for a half hour I can *just* barely make it, if I work on walking around a little more during my day. (I might also have to do a little 50 step dancing in my bathroom right before bed, so I can get those last few steps in!)

Just Walk DVD

I have joined a Facebook group with some friends and we are each doing Leslie Sansone walking workouts daily for the year. (When I have lost weight in the past, it has been a direct result of me doing these workouts regularly) My current favorite is[easyazon-link asin=”B00D2UMHWO” locale=”us”]Leslie Sansone: Walk It Off in 30 Days[/easyazon-link]. Over the years I have built up a small library of her videos, so I feel like I have workout variety (super important for me).

I’m trying to keep more fruit and vegetables and fewer bags of candy in my office, and I’m working on bringing my lunch to work rather than hitting the drive through.

I feel good about my plan for the year. It seems like something that is sensible, affordable, and a lifestyle that I can really live with!


Chime in! Do you have weight loss or fitness goals for the year? What are they? How have you found the most success in this area? I’d love to hear from you!