My Take on Weight Loss . . . or Not

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food and fitness goals It is a new year, and the minute after the ball dropped in Times Square the ads for weight loss products, companies and services began.

Weight loss is big business and big money.

Call me lazy, call me a fatso, but I never get excited for the next diet fad.

Part of it is a personality thing. I am decidedly NOT a jump on the bandwagon type of girl. I’m also not a go to meeting/support group kind of girl. I had a short stint as a Mary Kay lady 18 years ago and I had my fill of rah-rah pep meetings. They are not for me. And weighing-in in front of anyone other than my nurse? No thanks.

I’m also pretty frugal (some call it cheap). I really don’t feel like paying someone to tell me how, or how not to eat.

I’m a cynic. I see many weight loss plans as business plans and not much more.

I love real food.

Face it, I’m fat. But, I’m not necessarily fat because I’m lazy, or I eat too much (I possibly eat too little). Part of my fat is genetic (family pictures don’t lie), hormonal, and age related (40! Yay!)

While I want to be healthier, I’m not willing to give up the good foods that we enjoy in our home. I have no gluten sensitivity, so I’m not going to give up bread. Eggs taste great and are an inexpensive protein source. Dairy foods? Yum! Fruits and veggies? Yes please, pass the avocado!

So, here I am starting 2014 wanting to be more fit and healthy, but not exactly putting weight loss on the top of my priority list. (If it happens, fabulous!)

Rachel’s post, Six Reasons I am NOT trying to Lose Weight this YearΒ  resonated with me. As I read I was nodding my head, yes, yes, yes! Exactly!

Now, since starting my new job last May there have been some negative consequences on my fitness level. I am behind a desk most of the day instead of chasing busy toddlers. I joined and quit a gym because I hated giving up family time to work out (and I really hate leaving my house once I am nice and warm inside!). I sit at my desk and eat too much candy, and I forget to drink water.

I’m addressing my fitness needs.

I know that counting calories does not work for me. Calorie counting puts food in a negative light for me and makes me food obsessive. I know that I don’t have the time or dedication to work-out outside of the home. I know that I love gadgets.

Fit bit flex So, with the help of my Christmas bonus, I invested in a [easyazon-link asin=”B00BGO0Q9O” locale=”us”]Fitbit Flex[/easyazon-link]. This little Star Trek looking bracelet tracks my steps and activity level throughout the day and sends the data to an app on my iPad. I currently have a goal of 10,000 steps per day and if I work out for a half hour I can *just* barely make it, if I work on walking around a little more during my day. (I might also have to do a little 50 step dancing in my bathroom right before bed, so I can get those last few steps in!)

Just Walk DVD

I have joined a Facebook group with some friends and we are each doing Leslie Sansone walking workouts daily for the year. (When I have lost weight in the past, it has been a direct result of me doing these workouts regularly) My current favorite is[easyazon-link asin=”B00D2UMHWO” locale=”us”]Leslie Sansone: Walk It Off in 30 Days[/easyazon-link]. Over the years I have built up a small library of her videos, so I feel like I have workout variety (super important for me).

I’m trying to keep more fruit and vegetables and fewer bags of candy in my office, and I’m working on bringing my lunch to work rather than hitting the drive through.

I feel good about my plan for the year. It seems like something that is sensible, affordable, and a lifestyle that I can really live with!


Chime in! Do you have weight loss or fitness goals for the year? What are they? How have you found the most success in this area? I’d love to hear from you!


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About the author : Dakotapam

I'm a Lutheran pastor's wife and mom to six kids, including toddler twin girls. My life is sometimes normal, and sometimes crazy; but through it all, I know that I am blessed! Some people say that I have my hands full, I prefer to call it living life with both hands full, and I love it!

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  1. Annie - January 8, 2014 Reply

    You can do it Pam! I can’t wait to hear from you about how great you feel after you start taking care of YOU πŸ™‚

    • Dakotapam - January 8, 2014 Reply

      Thanks, Annie! It already feels good to take a little time to nurture myself!

  2. Lisa - January 8, 2014 Reply

    Thank you, Pam. Thank you for saying what so many of us really think and feel. I absolutely hate the fad diet thing and I’m smart enough to know that there really isn’t anything wise about a diet that eliminates any particular thing completely – unless of course, you have a medical reason why you need to. I get that.

    I have a relative who is always pushing the latest craze diet at me and reminding me about how I should lose weight – and that does anything but motivate me. About eighteen months ago, the Hub and I started just being more sensible about our food choices and concentrating on being healthier, not thinner. It made a huge difference and for the first time in forever, we both actually lost some weight! So we’re sticking with that and I for one am hoping to add more activity to my day. I’m not good at that and I know I feel better when I add it regularly.

    I love your gadget – I have to check that out! I’ve heard of the 10,000 steps enough times to know it’s something I could do if I’d just spend even five minutes thinking about it. I had a clunky old pedometer, though, when I tried once before and it just irritated me. Maybe a cool gadget would help!

    Best to you – it really does feel great to take care of ourselves and our bodies, doesn’t it?

    • Dakotapam - January 8, 2014 Reply

      The fitbit helps! With my desk job, and walking to get coffee, pacing on the phone and my half hour of working out I’m almost yo 10,000! That feels pretty good considering it is -10 outside, so all of my walking is indoors!

      I’m glad I can be an encouragement. The Internet seems to feed the fad craze. I hope to help balance things. It reminds me of when Adkins was “the” thing. I looked into it, and carrots were on the “no” list. I can guarantee you that I did NOT get fat from eating too many carrots!

      let’s keep each other sensible!

  3. Lisa - January 10, 2014 Reply

    Wow – that’s pretty amazing for not adding much more to your daily routine. And a half hour workout is very doable.

    Had to laugh at the carrots thing – doesn’t that just make you roll your eyes? I am amazed at what some of these fad diets put on the “no” list.

    Happy stepping!

  4. James Patterson - January 15, 2014 Reply

    Thanks for sharing this. I am also on my journey of losing weight and live a healthy lifestyle.

  5. Jean Walter - January 16, 2014 Reply

    Hi Pam,

    Addressing one’s fitness needs is an amazing idea for 2014. Physical fitness improves one’s sense of well-being.

  6. Angel S - January 19, 2014 Reply

    Hi Pam! Such an amazing idea to share your ideas about being fit for this year. You can do it, though, just believe! πŸ™‚ I am also one of those people who always on the start line when it comes to fitness. I hope we can make it this year! πŸ™‚

  7. Gayle - January 23, 2014 Reply

    One new habit a month and think where you’ll be in a year! I graze all day at work: celery and real peanut butter, Greek yogurts, raw almonds, raisins, costcos cashew & pumpkin seed chunks, cold cuts string cheese & bb pickles etc. and one yummy carb thing like a kashi bar.

    • Dakotapam - January 23, 2014 Reply

      Those are great ideas, Gayle! My work munching is my undoing, Today I brought in some hard boiled eggs and yogurt for my craving times:) I’m safe with cookies, I don’t care for them, but chips and candy are my weaknesses!

  8. Irving - January 29, 2014 Reply

    The FitBit Flex looks like a really great gadget! I wonder if it also works for runners? Hmm… anyway, I’m trying to lose weight as well and this device will be a great help. Thanks for your post, I really enjoyed reading it.

  9. Nea - February 24, 2014 Reply

    Thank you Pam for sharing this with us. I have recently done a lot of research on how to lose weight and live more healthier. There is a lot of useless guides and information, thanks for providing us with this great ideas πŸ˜€

  10. Weight Loss Health Products - February 27, 2014 Reply

    Hi Pam, Thanks for sharing your story with us. I really liked it because I also don’t believe in dieting and all.. Your Fitbit bracelet is superb!!! its such an extraordinary way to track our movement. Really liked it:)

  11. Frank - February 28, 2014 Reply

    Hi,I really enjoyed the information on your website,keep up the excellent work!

  12. easy veggie meal plans review - March 1, 2014 Reply

    nice tips to get rid of fat …. keep going

  13. David Mills - March 16, 2014 Reply

    Walking is a great way to exercise and burn some extra calories, I tell my clients to avoid fad diets as they cannot be sustained for the long term. The best solution is to find a fitness program that you enjoy and to treat yourself every now and again.

  14. Kim Silverman - March 20, 2014 Reply

    Dieting can be quite hard but since you have taken the initial step I am sure that you are on your way to a healthier lifestyle. Maintaining a healthy diet is important and if you combine this with regular workouts, then I am sure you will see the good results soon enough. As long as you are comfortable with your weight loss routine then keep it up!

  15. Mark - March 20, 2014 Reply

    Fad diets work in the short term but not the long term. As soon as you finish you put all the weight back on and more as you also lose calorie burning lean muscle. The best way to lose weight is to move more and eat cleaner.

  16. jenny - March 22, 2014 Reply

    Thanks for sharing this helpful post.

    I have always belief that the key to achieving anything great in life is sticking one thing that works and giving it all that you’ve got.

    Jumping from one fad diet to another is never the way to go.

    People should learn to focus on what works and go the long haul.

    Thank you once again.

  17. Brandy Lu - March 24, 2014 Reply

    It is always a good idea to have a healthier life. Sometimes the only hindrance to being healthy is ourselves. We tend to think everything is still okay then you wake up one day and see yourself heavier and unhealthier.
    Cheers and goodluck. You can do it Pam!

  18. Christine Grafer - March 27, 2014 Reply

    Great post on weight. I think a healthy lifestyle is much better than a “diet”.

  19. Ben - April 19, 2014 Reply

    I’ve tried fad diets before…… Lost weight….. Then gained it all back again!! I am changing my lifestyle by blogging for accountability and buying a bike to get to and from work :)!! Keep the mind healthy and it’ll be easier to keep the body healthy πŸ™‚

  20. shhhbreak - April 19, 2014 Reply

    Good post, although me personally, i dont think i could of lost that much weight without incorporating diet to working out, what i realized was that at the beginning was that my diet was all f***** up, and no matter how much i excercised i still had alot of fat in the belly area, when i got my diet fixed up i started seeing results which i only had dreamed of before. Sure there were still bumps on the road, mainly some habits that needed fixing like
    Every single one of those, every single one.
    Anyway, good luck with the “star trek bracelet” πŸ™‚
    Oh before i forget, you know that even with strict diet, you can have REAL and GOOD food πŸ™‚

  21. Hypnotherapy for depression Adelaide - April 20, 2014 Reply

    Very Informative post about weight loss πŸ™‚

  22. Paul - June 3, 2014 Reply

    GO ON PAM πŸ˜›

    Im on my own weight loss journey too! Losing a steady 2 pounds per week, plenty of cardio work outs and swapping sweets for fruit has helped alot.

    Good luck.

  23. FitDave - June 8, 2014 Reply

    Some very sound and wise weight loss address and I’m not the type either to sacrifice the food I love eating for losing a few pounds πŸ™‚

  24. james howard - June 18, 2014 Reply

    I like your way of taking care of your food and weight. I also have plans for this year which is only left with 6 and half months. I am crossing 70kg these days and I have plans to maintain it around 60. In past I took lot of steps by reducing diet fasting and exercising but I was unable to achieve my required goals. Now a days I am motivated and working hard with my daily exercise plan. I believe I will achieve what is planned.

  25. redone - June 28, 2014 Reply

    Strolling is a good method to workout along with burn up some additional calories from fat, We explain to my personal customers to stop dietary fads since they can not be maintained for the future. The most effective option is to discover a fitness routine which you get pleasure from and purchase from time to time.

  26. Kingsley - July 5, 2014 Reply

    Great post Dakotapam, healthy lifestyle is very important for ones health

  27. Dominic Wells - July 8, 2014 Reply

    I’m definitely with you on the anti-fad thing. Being trim has been something we’ve been able to do by leading an active life and having a fairly standard exercise regime for centuries. I just don’t see the need to jump into a new program, and had my share of rah rah meetings too. Well said!

  28. BKKGirl - July 30, 2014 Reply

    it’s always good to have diet plan because without plan you can lose your motivation so quickly. if having plan, and keep on working according to plan. we will see improvment gradually. That’s make us feel good and keep on losing weight and start having healthy life.!!!

    thank you so much for awesome post here!

  29. Premier Physicians - October 7, 2014 Reply

    Weight loss is a tough thing especially when it’s mainly a genetic problem. I know that for me at least I need someone willing to go the distance with me so I stay motivated

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  31. Jane Fileder - November 16, 2014 Reply

    Thanks for sharing this great article post about weight loss. You choose your own thoughts and your thoughts determine how you feel and what you do.

  32. Barry - November 18, 2014 Reply

    The discipline part is the hardest one. Plus, I have this hip injury that sort of like limiting my ability to do exercises and all. All I could do is eat organic food and juices. At some point, I get a bit tired. Nevertheless, I hope you could share some exercise I can do that won’t hurt my hip miseries.

  33. Jessica - November 24, 2014 Reply

    Thanks for sharing this informative information about weight loss. I have also try to loose some weight. your post really help me to loose weight.

  34. mike Friedman - November 25, 2014 Reply

    to keep your goal between your eyes is most important to change your body and loose weight you have to see your body in the mirror everytime to motivate your self to keep going loosing weight thats what i think after that you can just diet

  35. Caroline Deffontaine - December 9, 2014 Reply

    Hi Pam, it’s nearly the end of this year now so I hope you have managed to achieve your goals! Best of luck for 2015 πŸ™‚

  36. CrazyAliya - February 24, 2015 Reply

    helpful post…..

    I am using Weight Loss Supplements to reduce weight.

  37. Jane - March 6, 2015 Reply

    Real food is great – but with an on the go lifestyle, I had to invest in some fruit and vegetable supplements. I started trying to loose weight after the birth of my child and recently came across Juice Plus + products. They’ve helped me to maintain a healthy, balanced lifestyle. My favorite are the Juice Plus + Shakes!

  38. Rohit Singh - March 13, 2015 Reply

    All the best with your goals and yes weight loss is the biggest concern in this generation as well opt for more junk foods in office over home made food and yes if anyone want to lose weight then they have to be little strict in what they eat

  39. Milena - March 13, 2015 Reply

    Thanks Pam for sharing this with us. You gave a great tips for loosing weight, and since I’m trying to loose some weight too this is a really helpful post. A hope you managed to achieve your goals for 2014.

  40. Karl - April 7, 2015 Reply

    Hi, Pam i know you said your unwilling to give up the good foods (which i completely agree with) but have you ever considered using one of those services that provide the meals for you? I had quite a bit of success when i took my decision making process out of the mix haha.

  41. agent99fitness - April 7, 2015 Reply

    Thank you so much for your inspiration. If everyone can keep a positive focus I think anything is possible. Thanks again for your post.

  42. Organic Store - April 10, 2015 Reply

    Thank you Pam for sharing this with us..there are so many useful points in your blog which is very helpful for loosing weight..

  43. Dean - April 10, 2015 Reply

    For losing weight and staying fit zumba is very effective

  44. Peter Gonzales - April 24, 2015 Reply

    In my experience thereΒ΄s no easy way to loose weight. I started my physical program 5 years ago, and now I run 2 times per week (7 to 10 km) I go 1 time per week swimming and I bike in the summer.

    I also love food so this is the “easy” way of getting it all πŸ™‚

    Love the article πŸ™‚

  45. Gary - April 29, 2015 Reply

    Exercise is so important and can give great results if done frequently. Half hour a week isn’t really going to cut it. This does not need expensive gym memberships you can easily do small workouts at home. Plus do your workout first then eat and not the other way round.

  46. Dave Smith - May 6, 2015 Reply

    Hey Pam,

    Great post – I really appreciate your honesty. You hit the nail on the head…weight-loss is more complicated than “exercise more, eat less”…there are many factors that make it easy or difficult to lose weight.

    One positive thought for everyone to keep in mind: “Your heredity is not your destiny!”

    I agree that genes play a major factor in body size and shape, but that’s not the end of the story! You’ve given some great steps that anyone can take to start seeing results – the next step is staying motivated and accountable to those choices.

    Thanks again!

  47. Health Tips - May 20, 2015 Reply

    Nice post. Weight loss is not so hard . You need target a goals and try to get it. Its also important to take good and healthy foods. Always avoid junk and fatty foods.

  48. Rusty Moore - June 23, 2015 Reply

    I have been unable to get time to workout these days but thanks to my new walking routine, I have been noticing a lot of changes in my body. You go girl!

  49. Bob Thibodeau - June 24, 2015 Reply

    Great blog and post! I can truly relate to the “no fad” comments! It seems every week there is a “new” thing to try out. And the TV commercials…ugh!

    I started out pushing up towards 300 pounds by the time I “made the decision.” I’m still in the low 260’s about 10 months in…but, Praise God – I’m still “in the race.” I would like to get back down to about 225 or so.

    What I have been encouraging my readers to do is just “walk a little bit” to add the extra exercise and burn those few more calories. In addition, drink some more water! It seems to fill me up so I don’t eat as much – together…the pounds continue to fall off.

    I don’t know if I could do the 10,000 steps per day – great idea – but a knee injury may flare up putting out of what limited part I can do now. But – as I said – “every little bit helps!”

    Great site…keep us posted of your progress!

    Bob Thibodeau

  50. Aucu - July 10, 2015 Reply

    Very informative, Keep up the great work

  51. Tauseef Alam - July 15, 2015 Reply

    It’s been a year since you published this post. Curious to know if you stick to it in 2014 and what are your goals for 2015.

    • Dakotapam - July 20, 2015 Reply

      Things have gone great! I’ve been working out with a friend (mostly walking) and I have gone down two pants sizes and feel wonderful! I have a long way to go, but I will get there!

  52. swastik - August 6, 2015 Reply

    Great article! Thanks for sharing here it helps us all.

  53. Martina McKeough - October 7, 2015 Reply

    Have you used mindful eating techniques? I use them with all my weight loss clients and it really helps them to understand when they are hungry, when they are full and when they are eating emotionally. One of my clients lost ten stone using this method.

  54. Al Green - December 19, 2015 Reply

    Well, we are turning the page on another year. How have things gone?

    I’ll be focusing on losing about ten pounds in the first few months of 2016.

  55. Weight Loss Instructor - January 6, 2016 Reply

    Well Here I made a list few tips that can help to lose weight safely:
    1: Eat vegetables (Specially Green Vegetables) to help you feel full.
    2: Drink plenty of water at least 8 glass a Day .
    3: Get tempting foods out of your home.
    4: Stay busy (Try to walk 30 – 40 mins in morning)-
    5: You don’t want to eat just because you’re bored.
    6: Eat only from a plate, while seated at a table. …
    7: Don’t skip meals.

    • Dakotapam - January 13, 2016 Reply

      Those are some great, actionable tips!

  56. Fitibility - January 11, 2016 Reply

    Hi Pam, thanks for sharing your fitness goal. It’s 2016 now have you got new goals yet?

  57. John - January 20, 2016 Reply

    Nice posting thanks for sharing.

  58. Zana Kessler - February 8, 2016 Reply

    Really informative Pam.. L’il curious to how effectively did it worked out for you.??? πŸ™‚

  59. Pearce Fitness - February 9, 2016 Reply

    Thanks for letting us into your private life and letting us witness your fitness and weight loss plan. It’s been awhile since you posted this, are you still on track? How are things going?

  60. Kyra - February 10, 2016 Reply

    Thank you for sharing your goal, are you Still using Fitbit?

    • Dakotapam - February 17, 2016 Reply

      Yes! My Fitbit is still my constant companion!

  61. stefanie Smithus - February 12, 2016 Reply


    Great ideas!!
    Being a working mom it’s really hard to maintain a healthy lifestyle and a diet. I am certainly gonna follow the tips that you shared.

    Thanks for the information. I will share this with other working moms as well.

    Keep sharing more ideas………

  62. Stop the Scrawny - February 14, 2016 Reply

    Thanks for the article, great read!

  63. Smart Fitness Expert - February 16, 2016 Reply

    A healthy lifestyle is the way to go. Wondering how you’ve planned 2016!

    • Dakotapam - February 17, 2016 Reply

      It is going well! I need to write an update post!

  64. Taylor Orthodontics - February 19, 2016 Reply

    This is something really awesome.. πŸ™‚
    Will try to follow these tips to stay fit..

  65. Jane Warnold - February 19, 2016 Reply

    Hey Buddy

    Thanks for sharing this information with everyone. It is always better to live a healthy life. Thus, when we set a goal then at that time we get determined towards our goal and try our level best to get a healthy and fit life.

    Keep updating such posts to motivate and encourage everyone.

    All the best πŸ™‚

  66. Saul Ribiero - February 22, 2016 Reply

    Weight loss IS a huge business, and everyone is chasing after the next diet fad, so your frugality is serving you well because ultimately, those weight loss programs are based on the person’s determination; and if you’re determined enough, you’d do your diet yourself without the need of added costs of such programs in the first place.

    Truth be told, however, they are useful enough for whatever information they can provide. So yes, foregoing weight loss programs to go spend your hard earned money on that Fitbit Flex is a saner, far superior idea.

  67. Stefan - February 23, 2016 Reply

    Hi Pam,

    I just checked your meal schedule for feb 2016 and I know that it is hard to please a family of eight all of the time (I’m a divorced father of three) but there’s way too little vegetables and fruit on your menu.

    If there are, they are only sides to meat. You really should introduce your family to more fruit and vegetables as “Weight Loss Instructor” already stated.

    Do you guys drink a lot of soda’s`?

    • Dakotapam - February 23, 2016 Reply

      Actually, we eat a TON of fruits and veggies! We always have salads with dinner and my vegetable sides fill half of our dinner plate. The meal plan was to help working moms choose main dishes–which is often the toughest part of meal planning. As for beverages, we drink water with meals, except breakfast and lunch, when the children drink milk.

  68. Sylvia - February 24, 2016 Reply

    Hey, great share…..

    It’s really important to to stay healthy and fit. I am also on my weight loss journey right now. I just hate the fad diet thing. It’s definitely not a healthy way to lose your weight. We should always go for a weight loss plan that produces gradual results.

    Thanks for sharing this post. Stay fit and healthy and never give up on your weight loss plan!!

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